Most domestic violence is directed at women but men are abused too, in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships.

Seeking help as an abused man can be difficult, you may feel there is nowhere to turn or that no-one will take you seriously. Perhaps you are ashamed about what is happening or feel like you have done something to deserve it. You may be worried that people will think you are less of a man for ‘allowing’ yourself to be abused.

No-one deserves to be abused by the person they love. You have the right to be respected and live in safety.

Please remember

  • You are not alone – many men experience abuse 
  • The abuse is not your fault 
  • There are services that can help you 
  • You cannot change your partner’s behaviour 
  • Domestic abuse is against the law

Know your rights

  • You have the same rights as women 
  • The police will take you seriously and arrest your abuser if there is evidence of assault 
  • He or she can be prosecuted 
  • Statutory services must also provide support regardless of gender 
  • Accepting that you are being abused is an important step.

The next step is to break your silence and feelings of being alone by contacting an appropriate organisation or speaking to someone you trust.

Find support

PIPPA Helpline

Confidential helpline for professionals and victims experiencing domestic abuse, offering advice, information and support. Referrals for those who need specialist support. Helpline available Monday to Friday

Telephone: 023 8091 7917
Website: www.pippasouthampton.org
Email: pippa@southampton.gov.uk


Respect Men’s Advice Line

Telephone, text relay and email support for men
Confidential helpline for men experiencing domestic abuse, offering emotional and practical support
Phone lines open Monday - Friday 9am - 5pm

Website: www.mensadviceline.org.uk
Telephone: 0808 801 0327
Email: info@mensadviceline.org.uk